The business of getting unmarried can be one of life’s most unforgiving experiences. Unless you’re Gwyneth Paltrow and Chris Martin, it’s not likely that you will have a family-filled beach celebration to formally proclaim your freedom from one another. For most of us, divorce begins with family members drawing battle lines, and it ends with the merciless bang of a judge’s gavel. It is an experience that can mire us in a morass of negative emotions. It is important to remembe